Marriage isn’t for everyone. According to studies, 38% of people are not looking to walk down the aisle anytime soon — or even at all. Times have changed, and today’s generation doesn’t feel the need to follow some traditions, such as marriage.
I came across this thread where a redditor asked men why they don’t want to get married. The thread was filled with many thought-provoking, and honestly, quite shocking responses. Here is what some had to say.
1.“I think growing up around miserable married people made me reconsider the idea of marriage for myself. It’s not something I want or need.”
2.“I was married before. I found out the hard way that you can’t necessarily trust anyone to prioritize your interests just because they vowed to.”
3.“I’ve never seen a marriage that I’ve thought, ‘I’d like me one of those, please.’ I’ve seen my parents and friends’ marriages end in divorce. The friends who are still married are constantly fighting and arguing over petty things. So I think those are the main contributors to my negative outlook. It’s also that weddings cost so much money. Spending $20k on a single day? No thanks.”
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Marriage? oooffff…..
When I was in college, there were plenty of women who were full of B.S. as the only degree they were looking for was a “Mrs.” I knew well enough to stay away from them, enticing as they were. Earned my degree and moved about 400 miles away. Good job – started the dating scene, and ya know what I found out? The prevailing attitude of the women I was around was for them to find a good ‘catch’ – just more of the same when I was in school.
As a result, I threw myself into my work, skipped the dating scene, became a doctor. Worked crazy hours where I literally had no time at all. Now I’m in my mid 50s, and tried a little experiment. I posted two dating profiles on a well known dating site. The first post, I told the whole truth – doctor -established – etc. and posted a few pictures in ‘real life’. Then, I posted a second post, left out the doctor details and all that, and created a profile of a regular, stable guy doing modestly. The first site blew up. First month, tons of responses and lots of interest. The second post (that had the EXACT same pictures had two hits in the first month, and zero likes.
I’m sure there are very worthy women out there, who claim to be the real deal with ‘no drama’ (that’s is a dead give away fellas in that any woman who writes that surely is just that – dramatic), but I’ve yet to find one, let alone think about marriage. I’d also be willing to bet that there are plenty of women who feel the same way about guys and getting married. It comes down to expectations – love someone for who they are, or don’t. Given the terrible divorce rate, and the financial disasters that were caused for my buddies after a divorce, I don’t see an upside here.
To those who are married and happy, I do envy you, but the odds are more than slightly stacked against us fellas.
I am sorry these men had such crappy wives, according to them…I’d like to hear the ex-wives responses…that being said, if somebody doesn’t want to get married, fine. My parents divorced when I was young, so I get the hesitancy…But there are so many people I know that have been happily married for decades, including myself. We love each other more after over 30 years than the day we married. It literally is just finding the one and only one for you. Good luck, and I hope you all can find happiness, in or out of marriage.
me thinks to many people are just jumping into bed together and thinking it’s love! true love is sacrificing for others! what part of that do selfish people miss? or is it always all about me?
Half the marriages end in divorce and two thirds of the divorces are initiated by women. For good or bad reasons, these stats don’t change. And the family courts won’t spare you either. So it is safe for a man to stay single and alone. And just to be clear: Alone does not mean lonely. Marriage is just not for everyone. That counts for men and women. If only society would start to accept single men not as “incels” or “failures” as single women are hailed as “feminist hero’s who need no man”. That hypocrisy needs to stop…To each their own, peace
Marriage? oooffff…..
When I was in college, there were plenty of women who were full of B.S. as the only degree they were looking for was a “Mrs.” I knew well enough to stay away from them, enticing as they were. Earned my degree and moved about 400 miles away. Good job – started the dating scene, and ya know what I found out? The prevailing attitude of the women I was around was for them to find a good ‘catch’ – just more of the same when I was in school.
As a result, I threw myself into my work, skipped the dating scene, became a doctor. Worked crazy hours where I literally had no time at all. Now I’m in my mid 50s, and tried a little experiment. I posted two dating profiles on a well known dating site. The first post, I told the whole truth – doctor -established – etc. and posted a few pictures in ‘real life’. Then, I posted a second post, left out the doctor details and all that, and created a profile of a regular, stable guy doing modestly. The first site blew up. First month, tons of responses and lots of interest. The second post (that had the EXACT same pictures had two hits in the first month, and zero likes.
I’m sure there are very worthy women out there, who claim to be the real deal with ‘no drama’ (that’s is a dead give away fellas in that any woman who writes that surely is just that – dramatic), but I’ve yet to find one, let alone think about marriage. I’d also be willing to bet that there are plenty of women who feel the same way about guys and getting married. It comes down to expectations – love someone for who they are, or don’t. Given the terrible divorce rate, and the financial disasters that were caused for my buddies after a divorce, I don’t see an upside here.
To those who are married and happy, I do envy you, but the odds are more than slightly stacked against us fellas.
I am sorry these men had such crappy wives, according to them…I’d like to hear the ex-wives responses…that being said, if somebody doesn’t want to get married, fine. My parents divorced when I was young, so I get the hesitancy…But there are so many people I know that have been happily married for decades, including myself. We love each other more after over 30 years than the day we married. It literally is just finding the one and only one for you. Good luck, and I hope you all can find happiness, in or out of marriage.
me thinks to many people are just jumping into bed together and thinking it’s love! true love is sacrificing for others! what part of that do selfish people miss? or is it always all about me?
Half the marriages end in divorce and two thirds of the divorces are initiated by women. For good or bad reasons, these stats don’t change. And the family courts won’t spare you either. So it is safe for a man to stay single and alone. And just to be clear: Alone does not mean lonely. Marriage is just not for everyone. That counts for men and women. If only society would start to accept single men not as “incels” or “failures” as single women are hailed as “feminist hero’s who need no man”. That hypocrisy needs to stop…To each their own, peace